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Yang selalu kita dengar, "Saya nak cari isteri yang pandai masak.."
Yang jarang kita dengar, "Saya nak cari suami yang boleh imamkan solat.."
Yang selalu kita lihat, Bakal isteri cari buku resepi nak belajar masak untuk bakal suami..
Yang kita harap dapat lihat, Bakal suami buka kitab agama nak tambah ilmu sebelum beristeri..
Yang selalu terjadi, bakal isteri rasa malu sgt kalau nasi pun tak tau nak masak
Yang kita harap terjadi, bakal suami pun rasa segan yang amat kalau Al-Fatihah pun masih merangkak2
Jika lelaki meletakkan syarat utk bakal isterinya..
Keterlaluankah jika wanita juga meletakkan syarat utk bakal suaminya??
Kepada lelaki sekalian yang sangat terhormat
Janganlah marah mahupun 'hangat'
Tulisan ini tak sedikit pun berniat jahat
Sekadar insan lemah nak sama2 membri ingat
Untuk diri sendiri dan saudara2 yang dekat
Kepada wanita pula, jangan seronok sangat
Kita pun ada tanggungjawab yg x kurang berat
Harus disemat, kena selalu ingat
Besar amanah yang kita dapat
Allah tanya pulak nanti di hari akhirat
Indah betul dunia ni
Kalau lelaki dan perempuan sama2 membaiki diri
Kalau bakal2 suami & bakal2 isteri pakat2 bersihkan hati
Kalau suami2 dan isteri2 dapat ikut segala perintah ilahi
Ganjaran besar Allah janji
Tak kira perempuan mahupun lelaki
Yang hari ke hari cuba baiki diri
Jadi muslim yang benar2 sejati
Masa tu, tak payah la lelaki letak syarat lagi
Sebab bakal isteri memang dah cantik segala segi
Wanita pun tak susah hati
Bakal suami memang menepati ciri
Aduhai bahagia hidup ni
Bila syariat Allah pakat2 dipatuhi
Hidup dunia seronok sekali
Seronok di akhirat berganda2 lagi
adapted from mynurul. :)
01 September 2010
1. How is the person speaking?
Although a change in voice can be the tip-off to a lie, experts say that to be sure, you should also pay attention to a person's speech rate and breathing pattern -- if either speeds up or slows down, chances are you're not hearing the whole truth.
Liars tend to avoid exclusionary words like "but," "nor," "except," and "whereas," because they have trouble with complex thought processes. Liars are less likely to use the words "I," "me," and "mine." In their attempts to distance themselves psychologically from their tall tales, liars will tend to communicate using fewer personal pronouns.
3. Is his face giving it away?
You may think disguising your true feelings is easily accomplished with the help of a smile, but the expressions that flash across your face will give away what you're really thinking -- whether you know it or not. Experts advise paying close attention to the micro-expressions that a face can't hide. These clues are often so difficult to detect that even trained experts have trouble discerning them.
4. How is the person smiling?
A smile can sometimes mask a person's true feelings. Pay close attention to how a person smiles as well as other facial movements. You may be able to detect the emotions he or she is trying to hide -- such as fear, anger, and disgust. A true smile will incorporate both a person's lips and eyes.
5. Does the body language follow the story?
It's more important to examine a person's entire demeanor, as there's no one feature that's apt to give away a liar. Honesty is characterized by features that are in sync with one another -- so besides posture, note the fit between face, body, voice, and speech.
6. Is your subject behaving uncharacteristically?
Experts believe changes in a person's baseline -- how she generally conducts herself -- are worthy of your attention. You should weigh rate of speech, tone of voice, posture, and hand gestures against what you know, along with the context of the situation.
7. Is the question simple or embarrassing?
It's normal for someone to look away when asked a difficult question. But when someone avoids your gaze when asked a simple question, you should be suspicious.